Weaving Grief and Gratitude: Special All-Women Weekend Lodge with Quinalt Elder Harvest Moon

WHEN: Saturday, February 2nd to Sunday, February 3rd, 2018
WHERE: The Zen Dome on Marrowstone, 4894 Flagler Road, Nordland, WA 98358


1:30pm Arrival
2:00pm Lodge Begins
7:00pm Community Meal (provided): Salmon and Roasted Roots 
8:00pm Lodge Break til morning

9:30am Arrival
10:00am Lodge Begins
12:30pm Sack-Lunch (participants bring their own)
1:00pm Lodge Resumes
3:00pm Lodge Closing and Cleanup (everybody pitches in!)
4:30pm Departure

(registration opens 3 weeks prior to each Lodge)
•Saturday, May 11th
•August 2nd-4th-Family Style Weekend Lodge
•Saturday, November 9th

About the Grief and Gratitude Lodge

The Grief and Gratitude Lodge is a place to cultivate a deepening of our capacity to grieve, and thus, to live more fully and gratefully. Our larger cultural climate of mandatory cheerfulness and open contempt for expressions of powerful emotions such as sorrow, despair, and rage ultimately deadens our ability to feel, and erodes our connections with community. Practicing the skill of grieving in the presence of our neighbors, friends and allies allows us to rekindle relationship with our fellow humans, our ancestors, and with the greater Earthly body.

After many years of holding these Lodges, many have requested a women-only space for Griefwork. So, for this special Weekend Lodge, we will welcome the women of our community into ritual space together.  We will be joined by Quinalt Elder Harvest Moon, who will combine her skills as master basket-maker and storyteller to help us braid together deepest grief with deepest gratitude. We will do this in the ways that women have always done–by weaving stories with our hands, our voices, and our bodies. Harvest Moon will share regional tribal stories and guide us in the creation of sacred bundles to offer to our grief shrine.  Nala Walla will offer somatic movement practices and visualizations to connect with the ancestral wisdom in our lineages.

The Grief and Gratitude Lodge has the privilege of being held in the arms of an island forest in the Salish Sea, the traditional territory of Chimacum and S’Klallam native people.


General Admission: $175-$275

Local Admisson:  $125-$225 (If you will be sleeping in your own bed during this Lodge, you are considered “Local.”)


•WAIT LIST: Please note that there is usually a waitlist for Grief Lodge events. If you cannot attend this Lodge, please let the organizers know right away at the email address below, so we can offer your spot to someone on the waitlist. Thanks for your cooperation!

•OUT-OF-TOWN attendees: Overnight accomodations for this event are arranged by attendees. There are many lovely hotels and BnBs in the Port Townsend/Chimacum area. If you are coming from out of town, please use the FaceBook Event Page to coordinate rides, and to ask locals about possible homestays.

•LOCALS: Please use the Facebook Event Page if you can offer a spare room or couch to someone coming from out of town. Thank you!

•FACEBOOK EVENT PAGE: Please check back regularly with the Women’s Grief Lodge Facebook Event for updates and announcements as the date of the Lodge approaches. Also use the Facebook Event Page to receive posts and updates, and to stay in touch with eachother.

•ARRIVAL: Please plan to arrive at the Zen Dome between 1:30 and 1:45 pm.  Doors will close at 2pm.

•PARKING is limited, so please check the Facebook Event Page and coordinate CARPOOLS as the date approaches.

•FOOD:  Please arrive on Saturday having already eaten lunch, and bring a sack lunch for yourself on Sunday.  Filtered water, herbal tea will be made available throughout the Lodge. A simple dinner of Salmon and Root Vegetables will be provided by the Lodge on Saturday evening at about 7pm.  (If your diet does not include these, please bring supplemental food along with you.)

•PLEASE BRING a (full) waterbottle, pillow, blanket, and backjack chair if desired. If you feel inspired to do so, please bring items (photos, stones, flowers–anything that is meaningful for you) to add to our community shrine.

A juicy community discussion is ongoing between Lodges. Please join the conversation on topics of Grief, Death, and Initiation.

•DONATIONS ARE WELCOME!!!  The Grief and Gratitude Lodge works hard to keep event fees low, and thus we rely on the generosity of all who support this work through volunteer service, and cash contributions. 


•Admission fees to this event are balanced to make it accessible and affordable to all, and pay a fair wage to event facilitators and organizers.  It is important that each attendee pays at the highest level possible.  This is how we can do our part in making this event available to low-income people and people of color (scroll down to view our BIPOC policy.)  Really:  recognizing our privilege and distributing our resources more equitably is an important skill if we are dedicated to village-building and cultural repair.  Anyone in need of healing is encouraged to get in touch if the suggested event fees are out-of-reach.  griefandgratitude@gmail.com

•The Grief and Gratitude Lodge is offered as part of an emerging, grassroots movement to revitalize the ancient Gift Economy in a modern format. Please note that Gifting is not the same as “Free.” And it is also different than other fee structures such as “Pay What You Can” or “Sliding Scale.” By working “in the Gift,” we are declining the conventional market economy arrangement which formally ends our connection once the “transaction” is complete. As author of “The Gift” Lewis Hyde notes: “unlike the sale of a commodity, the giving of a gift tends to establish a relationship between the parties involved.”  This desirable weaving of relationships is why we choose to offer this Lodge in the Gift economy. By participating in this Lodge, we affirm our mutual obligation, which is recognized in turn by the offering of gifts, including the finances needed to run this Lodge fairly, sustainably, and ethically.


In the spirit of micro-reparations for slavery, racism, and the displacement of indigenous people, we offer admission to this Lodge by donation for black, indigenous and other people of color.  BIPOC can choose any amount they are willing and able to offer to the Lodge, as we don’t presume any particular class status or financial situation.  A $25 fee is charged as a deposit to hold a spot in the Lodge, which can be refunded at the event if needed for POC.

As people of European descent, the founders of this Lodge recognize our privilege in having the opportunity to offer a platform for sharing grief work–a privilege and position ultimately gained at the expense of black and indigenous people, past and present. We recognize that we continue to benefit from the legacies of slavery, racism, genocide, and displacement, and acknowledge the pain that still exists from that legacy.  We are honored that this Lodge is held in the arms of a beautiful Island Forest, in the traditional territory of the Chimacum and S’Klallam native peoples.

We believe in the enormous power of Grief Work to aid in the ongoing process of healing ourselves, our communities, and beyond. We want the work to be accessible to all, especially those who have been disadvantaged to benefit the privileged.  There is BIPOC admission available on our ticketing platform if you would like to register under these terms.  If you are a white-passing person, it may be relevant for you to read this link before choosing this option. https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/08/light-skinned-poc-spaces/

We realize that this policy is merely a gesture towards the need for much broader reparations and justice, and are open to feedback about how this policy can change and evolve over time.  We are listening, and are committed to learning.