Weavin’ and Grievin’: A Special All-Women Weekend Lodge with Quinalt Elder Harvest Moon
WHEN: Saturday, February 8th to Sunday, February 9th, 2020
WHERE: The Zen Dome on Marrowstone, 4894 Flagler Road, Nordland, WA 98358


9:30am Arrival
10:00am Lodge Begins
1:00pm Sack Lunch
6:30pm Community Meal (provided): Salmon and Roasted Roots
8:00pm Lodge Break til morning

9:30am Arrival
10:00am Lodge Begins
12:30pm Sack-Lunch (participants bring their own)
1:00pm Lodge Resumes
3:00pm Lodge Closing and Cleanup (everybody pitches in!)
4:30pm Departure

About Weavin’ and Grievin’: An All-Women Grief and Gratitude Lodge

The Grief and Gratitude Lodge is a place to cultivate a deepening of our capacity to grieve, and thus, to live more fully and gratefully. Our larger cultural climate of mandatory cheerfulness and open contempt for expressions of powerful emotions such as sorrow, despair, and rage ultimately deadens our ability to feel, and erodes our connections with community. Practicing the skill of grieving in the presence of our neighbors, friends and allies allows us to rekindle relationship with our fellow humans, our ancestors, and with the greater Earthly body.

After many years of holding these Lodges, many have requested a women-only** space for Griefwork. So, for this special Weekend Lodge, we will welcome the women of our community into ritual space together.  We will be joined by Quinalt Elder Harvest Moon, who will combine her skills as master basket-maker and storyteller to help us braid together deepest grief with deepest gratitude. We will do this in the ways that women have always done–by weaving stories with our hands, our voices, and our bodies. Harvest Moon will share regional tribal stories and guide us in the creation of sacred bundles to offer to our grief shrine.  Nala Walla will offer somatic movement practices and visualizations to connect with the ancestral wisdom in our lineages.


**ON GENDER INCLUSIVITY: Because we believe that everyone should have an opportunity to grieve in community, we generally hold inclusivity to be an important value for the Grief and Gratitude Lodge. And we also acknowledge the specific need for a space where women can “drop our guard” in ways that many of us cannot do with men present. So for this Lodge, we mean to hold a focus upon those who were socialized in childhood as a girl/woman, regardless of their gender identity, so that we can hold space for any fallout that arises from that socialization. At the same time, we want to be inclusive of folks those who have experience as femme or female. If you identify as non-binary / gender-fluid / trans, and have questions whether this Lodge is the right place for you, please get in touch with nala@bwellnow.org. Also: please keep in mind that our next Lodge will be “All-Men,” and the following two are for “Everybody.”

The Grief and Gratitude Lodge has the privilege of being held in the arms of an island forest in the Salish Sea, the traditional territory of Chimacum and S’Klallam native people.


December 9th:  Priority Registration for Patreon Supporters
December 21st:  General Admission Opens


General Admission: $250-$350
Locals Admission: $175-$275 (You are considered “local” if you will be sleeping in your own bed for this event)
BIPOC Admission: $50-$350 ($50 minimum to hold your spot: can be refunded if desired at the event.
Scroll down to read our Equity and BIPOC policy)


•WAIT LIST: Please note that there is usually a waitlist for Grief Lodge events. If you cannot attend this Lodge, please let the organizers know right away at the email address below, so we can offer your spot to someone on the waitlist. Thanks for your cooperation!

•OUT-OF-TOWN attendees: Overnight accomodations for this event are arranged by attendees. There are many lovely hotels and BnBs in the Port Townsend/Chimacum area. If you are coming from out of town, please use the FaceBook Event Page to coordinate rides, and to ask locals about possible homestays.

•LOCALS: Please use the Facebook Event Page if you can offer a spare room or couch to someone coming from out of town. Thank you!

•FACEBOOK EVENT PAGE: Please check back regularly with the Women’s Grief Lodge Facebook Event for updates and announcements as the date of the Lodge approaches. Also use the Facebook Event Page to receive posts and updates, and to stay in touch with eachother.

•ARRIVAL: Please plan to arrive at the Zen Dome between 1:30 and 1:45 pm.  Doors will close at 2pm.

•PARKING is limited, so please check the Facebook Event Page and coordinate CARPOOLS as the date approaches.

•FOOD:  Please arrive on Saturday having already eaten lunch, and bring a sack lunch for yourself on Sunday.  Filtered water, herbal tea will be made available throughout the Lodge. A simple dinner of Salmon and Root Vegetables will be provided by the Lodge on Saturday evening at about 7pm.  (If your diet does not include these, please bring supplemental food along with you.)

•PLEASE BRING a (full) waterbottle, pillow, blanket, and backjack chair if desired. If you feel inspired to do so, please bring items (photos, stones, flowers–anything that is meaningful for you) to add to our community shrine.

A juicy community discussion is ongoing between Lodges. Please join the conversation on topics of Grief, Death, and Initiation.

•DONATIONS ARE WELCOME!!!  The Grief and Gratitude Lodge works hard to keep event fees low, and thus we rely on the generosity of all who support this work through volunteer service, and contributing at our Patreon Platform.   Cash contributions are also welcome.


•Admission fees to this event are balanced to make it accessible and affordable to all, and pay a fair wage to event facilitators and organizers.  It is important that each attendee pays at the highest level possible.  This is how we can do our part in making this event available to low-income people and people of color (scroll down to view our BIPOC policy.)  Really:  recognizing our privilege and distributing our resources more equitably is an important skill if we are dedicated to village-building and cultural repair.  Anyone in need of communal grief support is encouraged to get in touch if the suggested admission fees are out-of-reach.  griefandgratitude@gmail.com

Growing Grief and Gratitude, Patronage and Crowdfunding: The Grief and Gratitude Lodge is growing to meet the expressed needs of our community for longer and more frequent Lodges, and between-Lodge events. We need your support to do this!   We want to ensure the Lodge can be ongoing resource that is accessible to all that need it, in a way that helps to even out structural and historical disadvantages to marginalized people.  So we are asking that each member of this community shares this effort by supporting the Lodge on Patreon at a level that reflects both the value of the Lodge itself, as well as the time and energy invested in building and maintaining a viable community of skilled grievers, and making the Lodge equitable and accessible. You can also make a donation here.

•If each person who has been moved by the Grief Lodge gave $5 per month ($60 per year) we would have a significant budget to grow and disseminate this important work. Those who can afford more are encouraged to contribute accordingly, to help make the Lodge available to everyone, and create a progressive funding of reparations through the Lodge. In addition to financial, material and service support, the growing gratitude and conviviality engendered by this Lodge also oblige us to “pay it forward” (and outward, inward and onward) as we labor together to circulate our gifts in widening circles. A multi-layered gifting is greatly needed, and greatly appreciated.


In the spirit of micro-reparations for slavery, racism, and the displacement of indigenous people, we offer admission to this Lodge by donation for black, indigenous and other people of color.  BIPOC can choose any amount they are willing and able to offer to the Lodge, as we don’t presume any particular class status or financial situation.  A $25-$50 fee is charged as a deposit to hold a spot in the Lodge, which can be refunded at the event if needed for POC.

As people of European descent, the founders of this Lodge recognize our privilege in having the opportunity to offer a platform for sharing grief work–a privilege and position ultimately gained at the expense of black and indigenous people, past and present. We recognize that we continue to benefit from the legacies of slavery, racism, genocide, and displacement, and acknowledge the pain that still exists from those legacies.  We are honored that this Lodge is held in the arms of a beautiful Island Forest, in the traditional territory of the Chimacum and S’Klallam native peoples.  If you have the means to support this micro-reparations admissions policy, please make a donation to the Grief and Gratitude Lodge.

We believe in the enormous power of Grief Work to aid in the ongoing process of healing ourselves, our communities, and beyond. We want the work to be accessible to all, especially those who have been disadvantaged to benefit the privileged.  There is BIPOC admission available on our ticketing platform if you would like to register under these terms.  If you are a white-passing person, it may be relevant for you to read this link before choosing this option. https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/08/light-skinned-poc-spaces/

We realize that this policy is merely a gesture towards the need for much broader reparations and justice, and are open to feedback about how this policy can change and evolve over time.  We are listening, and are commited to learning.


•Since there is usually a waiting list for this Lodge, we ask that you notify us as soon as possible so that we may offer your spot to someone on the wait list.
•Cancellations made more than two weeks before the Lodge will receive a full refund, minus a $10 service fee.
•Cancellations made more than one week before the Lodge will receive a 50% discount.
•We cannot provide refunds for cancellations made less than 1 week before the scheduled event.

Thank you to all our Patrons for your ongoing support.  Thank you for believing in this work, and helping it be accessible to all who need it.  Deep bows to you….


stay tuned for more info and registration

“The deeper the sorrow, the greater the joy.”  –William Blake.

Amidst a society that mandates an unbending and non-negotiable cheerfulness, which displays open contempt for strong emotions, we need a place to shelter our natural grief. A place to reclaim our right to access the vitality and joy contained within our vulnerability.  The Grief Lodge is that place.

WHEN: Saturday May 9th, 2020
WHERE: The Zen Dome on Marrowstone, 4894 Flagler Road, Nordland, WA 98358


•Weekend Women’s Lodge: February 8th & 9th, 2020
•May Lodge:  Saturday, May 9th, 2020
•Summer Family Lodge: August 22nd & 23rd, 2020
•Fall Lodge:  Saturday November 14th, 2020

All Ages and Families Welcome!
WHEN: Saturday, August 3rd to Sunday August 4th 2019
WHERE: The Zen Dome on Marrowstone, 4894 Flagler Road, Nordland, WA 98358


9:30am Arrival (9am for folks with kids to settle-in to program)
10:00am Lodge Begins
12:30pm Sack-Lunch (participants bring their own)
1:00pm Lodge Resumes
5:00pm Lodge Break til morning
6:00pm Potluck Dinner (Salmon provided) and Campfire

9:30am Arrival (9am for folks with kids to settle-in to program)
10:00am Lodge Begins
12:30pm Sack-Lunch (participants bring their own)
1:00pm Lodge Resumes
3:30pm Lodge Closing and Cleanup (everybody pitches in!)
5:00pm Departure