VILLAGE-STYLE GRIEF & GRATITUDE LODGE
All Ages and Families Welcome!

WHEN: Saturday, August 3rd to Sunday August 4th 2019
WHERE: The Zen Dome on Marrowstone, 4894 Flagler Road, Nordland, WA 98358

SCHEDULE:

SATURDAY, AUGUST 3rd
9:30am Arrival (9am for folks with kids to settle-in to program)
10:00am Lodge Begins
12:30pm Sack-Lunch (participants bring their own)
1:00pm Lodge Resumes
5:00pm Lodge Break til morning
6:00pm Potluck Dinner (Salmon provided) and Campfire

SUNDAY, AUGUST 4th
9:30am Arrival (9am for folks with kids to settle-in to program)
10:00am Lodge Begins
12:30pm Sack-Lunch (participants bring their own)
1:00pm Lodge Resumes
3:30pm Lodge Closing and Cleanup (everybody pitches in!)
5:00pm Departure

SAVE THE DATE FOR UPCOMING FALL LODGE:
•Saturday, NOVEMBER 9th, 2019, 2-8pm

About the Grief and Gratitude Lodge

The Grief and Gratitude Lodge is place to cultivate a deepening of our capacity to grieve, and thus, to live more fully and gratefully. Our larger cultural climate of mandatory cheerfulness and open contempt for expressions of powerful emotions such as sorrow, despair, and rage ultimately deadens our ability to feel, and erodes our connections with community. Practicing the skill of grieving in the presence of our neighbors, friends and allies allows us to rekindle relationship with our own bodies, our fellow humans, our ancestors, and with the greater Earthly body. The Lodge explores the intertwining of grief & gratitude, with the heart-filled guidance of Laurence Cole and Nala Walla.

If grief is the “glue of community” and essential to “village-making” (as described by author/activists Martin Prechtel and Stephen Jenkinson) we at the Grief and Gratitude Lodge feel it is of utmost importance to involve our children, so that they witness, and participate early-on in the understanding that grieving is a natural, and essential part of human life.

This weekend of alchemy will include a full children’s program, including guided opportunities for children to visit the Lodge, as well as nature-exploration, music, and plenty of play with experienced child facilitators.

Also included will be a delicious Salmon Dinner, and songs around the campfire on Saturday evening. We are aiming for an organic and well-rounded village-building experience.

The Grief and Gratitude Lodge has the privilege of being held in the arms of an island forest in the Salish Sea, the traditional territory of Chimacum and S’Klallam native people. Gratitude to Oglala Sioux artist Ioyan Mani, Maxine Noel, for her beautiful painting entitled “Mother Earth’s Tears,” above.

EVENT FEES:

Single Admission: $195-$295

Family Admisson:  $295-$395

BIPOC Admission: $50-$395 ($50 minimum refundable deposit to hold your space)

 

LOGISTICS:

•RSVP is required for this event & there is a WAITLIST. Space in the Zen Dome is limited, so if your spot has been confirmed and you can’t make it, PLEASE let us know right away at griefandgratitude@gmail.com, so we can give your spot to someone on the waitlist.

•ARRIVAL: Please plan to arrive between 9 and 9:30am. We will begin on time at 10am, and doors will be closed for the remainder of the event.

•RUSTIC SETTING: This Lodge event is being held by the beautiful woods of Marrowstone Island, in a sacred geometric Dome near the Salish Sea. Much of our work will take place indoors at the Dome, but we will frequently be venturing outdoors. Please expect typical rustic setting features: some uneven ground, composting toilet facilities, and plenty of mosquitoes at dusk. Chairs can be made available for those in need of them, but general seating will be on the floor—please bring your own cushion/blanket to make yourself comfortable. Being in close communion with nature lends power and grounding to our griefwork, so thank you in advance for your appreciation of and preparation for our rustic setting.

•PARKING is limited, so please check the Facebook Event Page and coordinate CARPOOLS as the date approaches.

•FOOD: Please arrive already breakfasted, and bring a sack lunch for yourself and your children for each day of the Lodge. (The Lodge will provide some snacks–primarily fruit, nut butter–to kids in the children’s program). Filtered water and herbal tea will be made available throughout the Lodge. On Saturday, The Lodge will provide Salmon for dinner, and participants will round out the menu with potluck dishes. The Dinner Menu will be Salmon, Salad and a Grain or Potato dish. (If your diet does not include these, please bring supplemental food along with you.)

•PLEASE BRING a (full) waterbottle, pillow, blanket, and backjack chair if desired. If you feel inspired to do so, please bring items (photos, stones, flowers–anything that is meaningful for you) to add to our community shrine.

•PARENTS: Please bring backpacks for your kids so that they have everything they need while you are at the Lodge. Be sure to include sun gear (hat, longsleeve shirt, sunscreen, etc.), bathing suit, towel, snacks, lunches, change of clothes, water bottle.

•FACEBOOK EVENT PAGE: Please check back regularly with the Facebook Event Page for updates and announcements as the date of the Lodge approaches.

•FACEBOOK DISCUSSION GROUP:
A juicy community discussion is ongoing between Lodges. Please join the conversation on topics of Grief, Death, and Initiation.
GRIEF AND GRATITUDE FACEBOOK GROUP

•DONATIONS ARE WELCOME!!!  The Grief and Gratitude Lodge works hard to keep event fees low,  and to offer reparations to black, indigenous and people of color.  Thus we rely on the generosity of all who support this work through volunteer service, and cash contributions. 

NOTES on PAYMENT POLICY AND PRICING STRUCTURE:

•This pricing of this event is designed intentionally to distribute the blessings and responsibilities of our children across the community, instead of disproportionately on parents.
•In the context of event ticketing only (the Lodge intends no judgements about what a family means personally, or culturally) a “Family” is considered to mean an immediate-family of 2 adults, and their children under 13. Please respect these boundaries and buy a “Single” ticket if “Family” does not describe your situation.
•This event is priced to make it accessible and affordable, please pay at the highest level that you can afford to make this event accessible to low-income people. Really: this is an important skill if we are dedicated to village-building.
•If you would like to attend this Lodge, and this pricing structure is out-of-reach, please get in touch Nala for work-trade and other possible arrangements.   griefandgratitude@gmail.com

BIPOC POLICY

In the spirit of micro-reparations for slavery, racism, and the displacement of indigenous people, we offer admission to this Lodge by donation for black, indigenous and other people of color.  BIPOC can choose any amount they are willing and able to offer to the Lodge, as we don’t presume any particular class status or financial situation.  A $25 fee is charged as a deposit to hold a spot in the Lodge, which can be refunded at the event if needed for POC.

As people of European descent, the founders of this Lodge recognize our privilege in having the opportunity to offer a platform for sharing grief work–a privilege and position ultimately gained at the expense of black and indigenous people, past and present. We recognize that we continue to benefit from the legacies of slavery, racism, genocide, and displacement, and acknowledge the pain that still exists from that legacy.  We are honored that this Lodge is held in the arms of a beautiful Island Forest, in the traditional territory of the Chimacum and S’Klallam native peoples.  If you have the means to support this micro-reparations admissions policy, please make a donation to the Grief and Gratitude Lodge.

We believe in the enormous power of Grief Work to aid in the ongoing process of healing ourselves, our communities, and beyond. We want the work to be accessible to all, especially those who have been disadvantaged to benefit the privileged.  There is BIPOC admission available on our ticketing platform if you would like to register under these terms.  If you are a white-passing person, it may be relevant for you to read this link before choosing this option. https://everydayfeminism.com/2017/08/light-skinned-poc-spaces/

We realize that this policy is merely a gesture towards the need for much broader reparations and justice, and are open to feedback about how this policy can change and evolve over time.  We are listening, and are commited to learning.

LODGE CANCELLATION POLICY

•Since there is usually a waiting list for this Lodge, we ask that you notify us as soon as possible so that we may offer your spot to someone on the wait list.
•Cancellations made more than two weeks before the Lodge will recieve a full refund, minus a $10 service fee.
•Cancellations made more than one week before the Lodge will recieve a 50% discount.
•We cannot provide refunds for cancellations made less than 48 hours before the scheduled event.

RECENT EVENT HISTORY:

Weavin’ and Grievin’: A Special All-Women Weekend Lodge with Quinalt Elder Harvest Moon

WHEN: Saturday, February 2nd to Sunday, February 3rd, 2019
WHERE: The Zen Dome on Marrowstone, 4894 Flagler Road, Nordland, WA 98358

SCHEDULE:

SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 2nd
1:30pm Arrival
2:00pm Lodge Begins
7:00pm Community Meal (provided): Salmon and Roasted Roots 
8:00pm Lodge Break til morning

SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 3rd
9:30am Arrival
10:00am Lodge Begins
12:30pm Sack-Lunch (participants bring their own)
1:00pm Lodge Resumes
3:00pm Lodge Closing and Cleanup (everybody pitches in!)
4:30pm Departure

 

About Weavin’ and Grievin’: An All-Women Grief and Gratitude Lodge

The Grief and Gratitude Lodge is a place to cultivate a deepening of our capacity to grieve, and thus, to live more fully and gratefully. Our larger cultural climate of mandatory cheerfulness and open contempt for expressions of powerful emotions such as sorrow, despair, and rage ultimately deadens our ability to feel, and erodes our connections with community. Practicing the skill of grieving in the presence of our neighbors, friends and allies allows us to rekindle relationship with our fellow humans, our ancestors, and with the greater Earthly body.

After many years of holding these Lodges, many have requested a women-only space for Griefwork. So, for this special Weekend Lodge, we will welcome the women of our community into ritual space together.  We will be joined by Quinalt Elder Harvest Moon, who will combine her skills as master basket-maker and storyteller to help us braid together deepest grief with deepest gratitude. We will do this in the ways that women have always done–by weaving stories with our hands, our voices, and our bodies. Harvest Moon will share regional tribal stories and guide us in the creation of sacred bundles to offer to our grief shrine.  Nala Walla will offer somatic movement practices and visualizations to connect with the ancestral wisdom in our lineages.

The Grief and Gratitude Lodge has the privilege of being held in the arms of an island forest in the Salish Sea, the traditional territory of Chimacum and S’Klallam native people.

EVENT FEES:

General Admission: $175-$275

Local Admisson:  $125-$225 (If you will be sleeping in your own bed during this Lodge, you are considered “Local.”)

LOGISTICS:

•WAIT LIST: Please note that there is usually a waitlist for Grief Lodge events. If you cannot attend this Lodge, please let the organizers know right away at the email address below, so we can offer your spot to someone on the waitlist. Thanks for your cooperation!

•OUT-OF-TOWN attendees: Overnight accomodations for this event are arranged by attendees. There are many lovely hotels and BnBs in the Port Townsend/Chimacum area. If you are coming from out of town, please use the FaceBook Event Page to coordinate rides, and to ask locals about possible homestays.

•LOCALS: Please use the Facebook Event Page if you can offer a spare room or couch to someone coming from out of town. Thank you!

•FACEBOOK EVENT PAGE: Please check back regularly with the Women’s Grief Lodge Facebook Event for updates and announcements as the date of the Lodge approaches. Also use the Facebook Event Page to receive posts and updates, and to stay in touch with eachother.

•ARRIVAL: Please plan to arrive at the Zen Dome between 1:30 and 1:45 pm.  Doors will close at 2pm.

•PARKING is limited, so please check the Facebook Event Page and coordinate CARPOOLS as the date approaches.

•FOOD:  Please arrive on Saturday having already eaten lunch, and bring a sack lunch for yourself on Sunday.  Filtered water, herbal tea will be made available throughout the Lodge. A simple dinner of Salmon and Root Vegetables will be provided by the Lodge on Saturday evening at about 7pm.  (If your diet does not include these, please bring supplemental food along with you.)

•PLEASE BRING a (full) waterbottle, pillow, blanket, and backjack chair if desired. If you feel inspired to do so, please bring items (photos, stones, flowers–anything that is meaningful for you) to add to our community shrine.

•FACEBOOK DISCUSSION GROUP:
A juicy community discussion is ongoing between Lodges. Please join the conversation on topics of Grief, Death, and Initiation.
GRIEF AND GRATITUDE FACEBOOK GROUP

•DONATIONS ARE WELCOME!!!  The Grief and Gratitude Lodge works hard to keep event fees low, and thus we rely on the generosity of all who support this work through volunteer service, and cash contributions.